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The Anatomy of a Mind Fuck, Hypno Erotic Seduction, Sexual Sky Diving

Posted on 10/15/21

Sex to New Heights: Apologies for a lengthy post, but it’s an interesting subjest that can be and should be discussed at length.  I have been asked about this for years and do my best to explain it here, if you take the time to read this it will enhance your experiences both while watching our films and in your own personal life.  This is just the beginning of that discussion. I write this from my perspective and that of others here, my experience as it has proven it self for 2 decades with cocksuckers, other crew members and other gym buddies some you know, some you don’t, some you will eventually meet.  This is probably the most revealing and most comprehsive thing I have written that is not locked down to members only or VIP ONLY.

It's All in Your Heads, both heads: Before I get too far ahead of myself, let me state that “hyno” or hypnotic or more crudely used “mind fuck” is NOT a negative thing.  The mind fuck, my technique or process as I define it is never used for any negative or sinister purpose; in-fact just the opposite.  Hypnotic here is a pleasurable thing, mentally and erotically getting in a guy’s head having his full and undivided attention in order to bring him to an altered state of consciousness.  Extreme fantasy through the power of my presence, touch and sound of my voice.  A process that taps the sexual part of a man’s brain which in turn fires up the circuits that connect directly to his dick.  A heightened state of arousal where at that moment nothing else matters, and he willingly and happily gives up self-control.  Hyno Erotic Seduction. “HES” my own trademarked branding a “mind fuck”. With the release of #205 and my mention in that film’s description, some are asking for it by name “HES Me Boss”.  So put simply your biggest sex organ is your brain.

The Process: It takes a willing participant willing to focus his mind on nothing other than what I am saying, how I am saying it and what I am suggesting; “getting in the zone.” Think of all the things you might do that require you to be in a certain zone, or state of mind.  Working out, writing, drawing, listening to music, playing a sport.  You are focused on nothing other than that task.  I have always viewed sex, and this sort of sex as a sport, I often refer to it as “sportsex” another term I coined.  It’s a chess match, it requires your mind.  It also requires someone else; a suitable partner.  Without that, it is NOT as arousing or as enjoyable and really isn’t being mind fucked at all if the right persona isn’t bringing you there.

“HES”, the most recent term I coined is an experience. Think of a good massage, the room is setup with scents, relaxing zen music or “sound”, all in an effort to get your mind to a certain place, once your mind goes there so too will your body.  The sound of my voice will immediately “tap” that erotic part of the brain (the thalamus) sending all the right signals to all the right places; the guy is turned on.  Once turned on, I am in control and it’s game on.

Like Sky Diving, a Tandem Jump: Sounds easy, and for some it is, others not so easy.  It takes the understanding of a man’s anatomy, his brain, and knowing exactly what to say, when to say it.  Say the wrong thing, say too much or too little and you could disrupt that state of consciousness.    That is the beauty of this, it’s a turn on watching a buddy slip into that state of mind and give me total control; both parties are aroused.  I have practiced this technique on hundreds over the years here, have perfected it and am still tweaking it.  That is how I am able to get friends, buddies and others who normally would never engage in man on man to engage and not only that, but film.  Human nature is such that we all want something new, exciting and different and everyone does if they have the balls to do it.  It’s like sky diving, the rush some get, the thrill the adrenaline but you need the right equipment, the right conditions and a tandem jump with an instructor you trust.  Jump with my, I got your back.

Here is what needs to exist in order for this to work..

1: Attraction (and not just looks): Again both parties need to be willing, both need to want it.  But more important than that, both parties need to have a mutual attraction.   This won’t happen to the level of total satisfaction without a primal attraction and it is not always physical or about looks, in my experience it’s all about true raw confidence.  Arrogance or “cocky” isn’t confident, it’s just the opposite, it’s fake.Its an insecurity covered up by a bad attitude a facade.  I am talking about true confidence something you can’t put your finger on, it’s real it is palpable; it can not be faked.  It’s a blessing, you either have it or you don’t.  

Years of Study: I know because for years and years it has proven itself over and over. I have observed and experimented and it’s confirmed.  Doing this, speaking with members around the world, friends, crew members, tops, bottoms, everything in between for 20 years I have become somewhat of an expert on male sexuality and better than that, I have become an expert on my own sexuality. The Muscle Mafia and all that it stands for has taught me much about myself as well as others and much about sexuality in general.  So this theory and method of mine is not just words, it is backed up by facts, proven outcomes that are consistent over and over.  (proof, watch some films) It was not something I set out to do, it is something that just evolved, it happened, when I realized it was real I analyzed it, studied it and here are the results. The one thing that 20 years has taught me is, when I asked anyone who I have “mind fucked” or erotically hypnotized  what it is that brought them to that ultimate state of mind, all have said the following in various forms:

“You are hot, good looking, sexy strong voice, amazing body” they all have their list of reasons and their own words to describe it but the one word consistent with each and every one has been “Confidence”  some went on to explain, my presence, just that special something I have that others with the same looks or body do not.  I have heard this over and over, even by those who have never met me, even by those who I have spoken to over the phone or on cam, even in email. What ever it is even presents itself in my films.  That energy radiates, is felt and makes an impact.  I wouldn’t know, I am just who I am, but that has been the conclusion, so on that I will have to take their word.  I have even heard that in various forms in other aspects of my life, a natural born leader, I get noticed and people listen.  I am not conscious of it unless and until someone points it out, otherwise I “just do me”.

2: The attraction has to be mutual.  I have no motivation to get in someones head and make all those moving parts happen unless I have some sort of attraction also.  Again, it may not always be physical that person also needs to have “something” that will make me want to get in his head, I can’t say what it is, I just know It when I see it or hear it.  I think if I really had to think about it, what motivates me to get into someones head like that is the challenge, the conquest, someone who you would never think would ever allow it to happen.  Some are submissive or want to be submissive others don’t even know it until I “fuck with them” then they are too aroused, too erotically in the zone to want to turn back.  Brad and Brandon both described it to me as that feeling you get when you first feel a buzz from a good drink, you want a little more, you like the feeling and the release of inhibitions it is liberating.  The kind of buzz where you can’t feel your face, like now…

  • Full disclosure:  As I type this for the blog, it is 11:46 pm, I am on my second martini (strong one) purposely so that I can better describe this feeling and really connect to the part of my own brain that springs into action.  To be perfectly honest, my just writing this and trying to put in writing what happens naturally is giving me a raging hard on.  So it is just as arousing for me as it is for the other guy. By the way, this works for girls too, it all depends on your night and who your “prey” is.  For me it is far more of a conquest and a challenge to seduce a guy, especially one who has no clue he is being seduced until its over.  Girls, for me, easy, guys present more of a challenge which is why it is so much more of a sweet victory.


So let’s go there, I believe alcohol only brings out what is really in your soul, I am a happy drunk (on the rare times I drink) I am a touchy feely, guy, I tell my friends they are beautiful, that I love them, I get silly, funny, I like to dance and I like to have sex.  For some they get vodka dick can’t get hard, me, its viagra vodka for me I get power boners as hard a steel.  To go even further in many of our films or live cams we have a few drinks either before or during, frankly it is usually the only time I drink.  Actually I save those times for cams or films.  Alcohol is not always there but it’s been known to be a good way to relax everyone.  On the occasion I drink off cam, I better have a cock sucker or some go to man, woman or couple after the party ends or the bar closes I hate a wasted buzz and I don’t jerk off, Im not into it.

I digress, back to the subject at hand.

3: Trust! Trust ties everything about in a nice little bow.  It encompasses all of the above, both attraction and confidence.  If you have attraction, and are turned on by genuine alpha confidence but you don’t have trust, it won’t happen.  This is all about being comfortable, no one want’s to give up control if there is no comfort level.  A little bit of fear and apprehension is ok, that makes it more exciting, but being uncomfortable and not having trust, that horse won’t race.  The goal here is to cross the finish line and both walk away victorious until the next time.  

4: Unique Elements:  This sort of fetish can be done in private (1 to 1) or with a group or audience.  In our case you, the camera either live or on film;  the camera definitely adds a unique element.  So when you wonder why some guys would allow this to be filmed, it is for that reason and for all the reasons above: willingness, strong attraction, and most of all trust that I am able to get some to “go there”.  When I get a buddy to that state of consciousness, the trust he has to give up control naturally causes him to forget about everything else including the camera, it is only when he realizes or remembers he or “we” are being watched that he will get that extra bump in adrenaline, that extra tap to the erotic part of his brain that gives his dick an extra bump in blood flow.  The camera (live or otherwise) requires an entirely new level of trust, one few can offer; a trust the our unique setup, my presence and our code of silence can only offer.  Unique indeed.

Memorable Mind Fucks: I think the most memorable scenes for me, aside from seducing Brad, or Brandon, (more to cum) was my continued mind fuck of Ron starting with #152 Mind Fucking Ron, Boss Takes Ownership (and about a dozen after 152, some still not released) and most recently Sean in 205.  But even before that, the ones that really strike me, that stick out,  are Jason #99 Full Command and every film thereafter with him.  Also too many to mention in VIP ONLY.  But the most enjoyable and the one that after editing and watching again that really excited me was Danny #85 Mind Fuck Carlo Claims Danny and #103 Mind Fuck 2, TTU Tied, Tortured, and Used. For me it was my mind fuck at it’s best, taking him, claiming him was one of my most enjoyable to watch and to release to you. That does not undermine the others, they all are enjoyable to show you, but those were a perfect storm of everything.  Danny took his mind deep that even after filming he told me he had a hard time snapping out of it and his sleep that night was the best he had in a while. Ryan from #190 Boss Breeds Ryan (and many still not released) is another guy who I really enjoyed mind fucking and taking control, you can see it in the films, hear it in his voice.  Watch his feet and toes when he cums, you can see the intensity leave his body from his toes, uncontrollable body twitches.

Some Common questions…  

Does it wear off? No if the bond is real and the connection is real, after the first initial “brain tapping” you can get that guy there again instantly because now he went there is more comfortable there and like a drug wants more, most of all trusts.  This is why someone like Ron, or Ryan kept coming back for more and eventually did more and more.  The total mental and physical satisfaction they were getting out of this was so intense, so genuine everything else just didn’t rise to that level, in fact anything else bored them (again their words, a common feedback).  In fact just a text, or a phone call can get things to a fever pitch to the point where they would wait until the next cam or film.  There was no desire for anything or anyone else.

Can this be done remotely? (Remote Control):  Yes, in fact the mind fuck, the seduction can start in text or email.   Remember this is about an energy. Again, if all the elements are in place your mind can go there.  Preferably being in the same room is best to stimulate all the senses but I have gotten in the head of many guys via cam, phone and text, most of which you have seen.  Most notably LA Jack where over the last 2 years he and I have spoken many times via text / phone and I have gotten in his head.  As a long time fan of mine and the site he wants to please me by pleasing others.  Through conversations I tapped his brain encouraging him to service gym buddies and allow himself to be used to pleasure bi and straight jocks from his local gym; essentially becoming The Muscle Mafia's west coast bottom and filming it. 

Another "remote control" captured on film is Chicago Ben in #176 Edging Ben, a Long Distance Mind Fuck.  This actually inspired what we are calling here “remote control” another trade mark branding of The Muscle Mafia, my ability to control someone by phone or on cam and their ability to allow or be “willing”  to go there.  This was something developed during this summer of 2021 one of those things I was working on and testing and something that no physical interaction inspired during the covid lock downs. For some, being in their own environment and the comfort of their own home actually made it easier for them to get in the zone.

Can anyone do it, can it be taught?  First no, not everyone can do it.  It’s like singing or dancing, some should just not embarrass themselves.  The same goes here.  I can however help to develop it in guys that are blessed with the gift.  Some find out for themselves and develop their own style.

Finally, most asked, What is it that you say to cock sucker when we see you whispering in his ear? Great questions, but if I told you that I would be giving away too much.  What I can say is know your audience, this goes back to above when I stated to know what to say when to say it.  I have said different things to different people based on what my gut feeling, that 6th sense I have tells me will stimulate his mind. If you listen carefully you will hear most of that I say, other times its private a whisper in his ear.  It is knowing what to say at key moments, what you might say in a more mutual situation is different than what you might say to someone who wants to totally submit.  What I have said to Ron or Ryan is entirely different than what I have said to Evan in the VIP ONLY Quid-Pro-Pro movies.  So even if I wanted to totally answer this question I can't, it is situational. That is why not everyone has that brain tapping ability, it is a seductive artform.

The Rest of The Crew: Brad was one of those guys who was both able and willing to be mind fucked and who was able to be taught how to mind fuck in his own style of course. As a man of few words, Brad’s size alone will make most submit. He too said that it was my confidence and his admiration for me beyond my body and looks that seduced him and made him want it.  Brandon said the same, but he came here totally wanting to be mind fucked, seduced taken, controlled by me.  So much so that it caused issues in his own personal relationship (that is another story)

Matt entirely has his own method of seduction that comes natural, a style very different than my own, but just as erotic.  Matt is just a good soul, aside from the obvious appearance Matt disarms people with a certain energy he has, people feel safe with him.  That is why the Matt and Carlo team works so amazingly.  It’s like metal to magnets, some will latch onto me, others onto him it is organic.  Some prefer my style, some his but together is a perfect storm of mind fucking and body pleasure.

Overwhelmingly, any film, live cam etc what is either Matt and myself tagging someone is a blockbuster, and above that, any cam or film with just Matt and me is FIRE!  To see both styles, mind fucking each other seems to be must watch film.  A member said about Films like #171 Boss Milking Matt Live and #158 Matt and Carlo breeding Jimmy that it is like watching King Kong vs. Godzilla, or Batman vs superman super powers mind fucking, tag teaming, and chess gaming others and each other.  The most recent tag team with me and Matt is with skater kid Eric in #204 Holy Fuck.  We have done many with Eric, this was the first release, others on the way for general release and VIP ONLY

But don't just take my word on all of this or the films I mention,  you might have some favorites of your own, watch for yourself, read the reviews from other members and make your own conclusions. 

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Comments (7)

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HyperPex 10/28/21
Didn't read this HES blog until now, weeks after loving the vids on this unique site. It puts it all together in detail, and valudates Carlo completely. I started with this site thinking, "Oh, these guys are just gay and scared to call it that." But the vids kept disproving that idea. Something else was going on, something real and powerful. (And yes, there's a way it ruins viewers for ordinary gay porn--ya damn hot fucks ya!) Anyhow, this essay is the at the very core of the power and the reality. Essential. And Ps., Boss, if you write this clesr when you've had a few drinks, what 're you, a PhD by day? Just right.
cm890 10/18/21
The quality and production of your work are top-notch and the complete antithesis to the overabundance of '"fast-food McDonald's style" porn that saturates the Internet. Your experience and expertise in terms of the many facets of male sexuality are invaluable to countless men out there. It's been a great pleasure to watch how this has played out in your Crew over the years. Brad is a great example of this and it's been fascinating to watch him truly open up to you and perfect his own way of mind fucking others. I can't deny that he's been able to do that to me...
GymBodyProg 10/17/21
This was incredible Boss!!!!! Seriously, top content. Learned a lot that I can apply to my regular life. Even reading this was erotic
cumvampire 10/16/21
Forgot wanted to add, swallowing your man milk would be a pleasure anyone who gets to taste you and ingest you is a lucky guy. Maybe digesting your DNA makes some of these guys better men, I bet it changes them a special potion magical liquid.
cumvampire 10/16/21
Fuck yeah Bosss! This is why I spend my time and money here. You are the real deal dude! I have watched many of these and many over and over, never felt like I was being put on, or it was fake or acted out especially the ones with you. Explaining here makes sense there is something very real that goes into your film and your interactions with all the guys. You are a king among men.
thankfulbottom 10/16/21
As a member of this site for 15 years or so and being involved in watching the production of many of these films and others yet to be released, I have to say what the Boss has written is so true and what I have personally witnessed. Incredibly well written and could not be improved upon. Who would not be attracted to the Boss, his confidence, his voice, his body, his approach, who he is as a person (I can attest to this one personally), what he says to the seduced and how he mind fucks is so erotic. For me, it is all about giving yourself to someone who has these qualities but mostly can be trusted to move the erotic needle of another guy way beyond what can be comprehended. The Boss has and continues to the move the erotic needle.
FenceJumper 10/16/21
I'm speechless Boss! Actually hypnotized by your words, actually aroused horny by this blog post. I am not a VIP but becoming one today so I can see more of these. I am a major fan and have been, I think what you provide here is a great service to the gay / bi-sexual and even straight community. I am one of those guys who dates women but has this fetish that until you and your crew had no where to go and no where to relate. This post explains a lot and I am living breathing proof that your mind fuck works by remote. I think it is so true that trust is a key factor. I have not found that in real life wish I could so I turn to you. Thank you for writing this and look forward to more films and more writings and words from you either in your video, podcasts or blog. I feel better knowing men like me do exist and I am not alone. Hello to Matt and Crew. Thank you for what you do.